How To Feel More Like Yourself After Having Children

I think every parent feels like they have lost themselves at one point after having children.

It doesn’t matter how many children you have, you can lose yourself after becoming a parent.

I know for a fact, that I have felt like it and some days I still do and Elsa is 6 years old now. I’ve been a mum since 2015 and sometimes I feel like I miss my old life, the old me.

I am always thinking of new ways to find myself again. It is so important to remember that you need you time too.

But how do you feel more like yourself after having children?

Schedule five minutes at a time (because time is so sparse!) to just pamper yourself. Come out of your maternity leggings and wear something brighter than black. Ask your partner to take the morning runs if it’s possible so you can lie in a bit. Take it one step at a time. I have three children and pregnant with my fourth so I really struggle with time to myself. But two minutes is better than nothing 🙂 – Motherhood Diaries

Spend time with other adults who you share non child related interests with. I went on a photography course and loved chatting about the technical aspects of composition etc with other people passionate about photography. It turned on a dormant part of my brain. – Counting To Ten

I made time for myself and got back to something I loved: Zumba. It might sound a bit silly, but just having one hour a week where I could socialise, dance my worries away and also boost my step count really helped me. – Blossom Education

I go out with my camera and take some photos on my own. It was my hobby before I had kids and it’s nice to have time to be “me” and focus on my other passion. – Ready Freddie Go

Brisk walking helped my physical and mental health and I’ve made some new friends through my daily walks. – Uplifting and Inspiring Content

Find a hobby which gives you focus to think about something other than the children and home life. Walking has been my saviour over the years. – Exploring Dorset

Dress up and go out on a non baby/child date with partner or friends. My favourite is going to the spa and just relaxing, having time to myself and taking care of my body. It’s great to catch up with friends too although conversations about kids needs to be banned! Or at least kept to a minimum otherwise it just turns into mummy chat 😝. – Mummy Wishes

Make time for your friends, stick to plans and try to maintain some sort of social life, even if it’s not the same as it was before. This will help you to maintain your identity and give you some time where you’re not just mum, you’re you 😌 – Hello Saturday

Grabbing snatches of opportunity for self-care, no matter how little your time is – even if you only have 5 minutes to yourself. I do some deep breathing exercises, some light stretching where it benefits me the most or my favourite – sleep meditation. For more ideas, check out the post below:

It might sound silly but I go and have atleast an hour bath on my own while our sons awake and leave him with dad. It gives me time to myself that isn’t alway after bedtime but it also gives dad time to have one on one time with him. I also found having a part time job helped me find “me” again after being a stay at home mum for 5 years and doing things I use to enjoy and still do. – Growing Clan

Hi! Oooh I love this question…’At first I think I completely lost my sense of self and my whole life revolved around babies. I feel like I almost became a different person – not necessarily in a bad way but just a new phase of my life if that makes sense? 9 years into it, I feel like I am getting my life back and becoming the old ‘Clare’ again. Time away from my kids at work helps with this and nurturing friendships from my pre-kids life helps too.’ Thank you! – My Tunbridge Wells

Try to be ‘on time’ for things. The more I arrived late for appointments/friends/family the more out of control I felt and like I was turning into this person who couldn’t do anything or be anywhere on time. Once I grappled getting out of the house on time I felt much more me! I caveat this with the fact this was a few months in – the first few weeks don’t expect to be anywhere on time! – All About Mummy

Do somrthing big like a new hair cut or a new wardrobe (ditch those maternity leggins I know they’re comfy but they have to go). – Mumma And Her Monsters

Treat yourself every now and then and don’t feel guilty about it! Go for a massage, get your nails done, have a spa morning, buy a new top! Take time to be you and pamper yourself – it’s great for self care, to have a break away from family life and to look/feel good 🙂 – Lylia Rose

Find something that’s completely non-child related to enjoy. Preferably that takes too much brain power that you forget about those little things you think you should be worrying about.
For me that’s aerial hoop. One hour, once a week I get to hang upside down and just think about how to get to the next move! – Readaraptor

Find some time to listen to music you love. So much of what you hear will be for the kids that it can just cleanse your mind and transport you back to those pre-baby days where you hear music you used to dance to! – Mummy Saver, Money Maker

Take time away from your partner and baby as soon as you feel comfortable too to do things you loved before having a baby. Any hobbies or activities. – Raising Harry

Taking time out for myself. Whether it’s reading a book or having a relaxing bath with a facemask. – Joanna Victoria

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