It’s not easy to be in conflict or disagreement with anyone, let alone people you’re related to. These circumstances and arguments can sometimes press all of your buttons all at once, even if you’re usually quite a level-headed and considered person.
Yet of course, remaining focused, attentive and as calm as you can is essential if you’re going to find an appropriate outcome. The argument may be about family relations, inheritance, other financial issues, or perhaps a clash of lifestyles. It’s not for us to speculate about your own personal circumstances.
However, if you’re going through a similar situation or can relate to this introduction, it’s important to know that resolutions are possible. You simply have to learn a few principles to keep you guided, focused and attentive in these matters.
Without further ado, let’s discuss how to achieve that:
Never Escalate
Even if you’re quite a steady person, in some circumstances it’s all too easy to let emotions take over and say things you’ll regret. The best approach is to take a breath and not resort to shouting or name-calling, even if the other person does.
You can try to keep your voice calm and your language respectful so the conversation doesn’t spiral out of control, which is easier said than done, but it can be done. Try not to think about winning an argument, just laser-focus on finding a solution that everyone can live with. Keeping your tone even will help ensure that the conversation stays on track and you can find a resolution more peacefully, but don’t be afraid to walk away if they’re not being constructive with you.
Formalize With Legal Help
There are times when a family conflict has gotten so difficult that it’s nearly impossible to find a resolution on your own, and when this happens you may benefit from bringing in a professional.
That’s because legal help can provide a structured framework for difficult conversations, and they can make sure that both parties are heard fairly. You could look into working with a professional firm like Harper Macleod family lawyers to help you formalize the process and find a fair outcome for everyone involved. Just remember, however, that these services aren’t the same as family counselors or therapists, they explicitly deal with the law and advocating for their clients. That may just be what you need.
Consider True Obligations
When arguing, always take a step back and look at the situation with a clear head, considering your true obligations. Think about what a fair and reasonable outcome looks like for everyone involved, and try to separate your personal feelings from the legal or financial realities.
Also think about what this dispute says about your relatives, and if this is appropriate treatment or helps show you that focusing on your closest family (your partner and children) is more appropriate. Sometimes, you have to advocate for one half of your family over the other, and cut some people off for peace. It’s not easy, but this approach can be informative and help you make healthier life decisions for you. Just think of your true obligations and to whom you owe them.
With this advice, we hope you can manage disputes with your family carefully.
The Coastal Mummy 